Relationships

What makes man different from other beings which exist? What has made him emerge above all the other animals?His ability to bond, to hold relationships with those around him. Mother-child, Father-child, Wife-husband, Brother-sister, brother-brother/sister-sister, friend-friend and more popular, the boyfriend-girlfriend; each is unique in itself, and has a beauty about it. Talking chemistry, some might look like covalent bonds, one day they are as strong as if stuck with fevi-kwik, and then drift apart in no time at all for the triflest of issues; while some ionic bonds remain steady and sail smooth, no matter how many whirlpools or storms they encounter. Man is often referred to as a social animal. He seeks companionship, and it is his nature to long for association with other fellow beings. Inspite of this, we see man groping in the dark; countless kinships we see breaking before our eyes, all for reasons so silly, not even worth metioning. Adults and adolescents alike, having clashes over trivial issues, even to the extent of breaking blood relationships. Each pointing fingers the other way, neither willing to break the ice. A relationship after all,is like a coin, whether its stands or breaks, is the result of each person in the relationship, and not just one standing stalwart. Seldom people fail to look at the other's perspective, or stand in the other's shoes, or just give a thought to why the other behaved as they did. Tempers rise. Egos clash. There is a fine line with ego on one side, and pride/self respect on the other. When the limit to this line is discerned, there need not be any effort to hold up the relationship - it will stand on its own. A little patience, a small compromise, a little control over anger, a bridle over any nasty retort on the tip of the tongue, would go a long way in making things better. "Why should I be the one to say sorry?" is the question that would pop in to the mind first. Instead, it should be, "Is all this worth losing a friend/relative?" Saying sorry does in no way make u shorter by an inch or two. Inevitable clashes and confilcts may occur, but it is the reconciliation that matters in the end. The very crux of a relationship is not love, as many would reckon, it is trust. For without trust, any other aspect of a relationship does not hold weight. A little baby would laugh out loud, when thrown into the air by his parent, with the assurance that he would land safely into his mother/father's arms. The same baby, after having reached around 20 years of age, would be very reluctant to show the same degree of trust, towards the same person. And in all probability, he would put this fragile emotion somewhere where it is least respected - an infatuation or the like. The reason? Human nature. So full of folly himself, man assumes the other to be at the pinnacle of perfection, and finds it frustrating to know that he is wrong. Every relationship passes through this fault-finding phase at some point of time, and only those bonds which believes that it's just a phase, and waits in patience for it to pass, emerges strong. Considering the daily frustrations at college/ work, that patient waiting takes a little strength of mind, and more importantly, trust in the other. A healthy relationship would most definitely involve give-and-take from either side. Honest communication, a wee display of affection, would take the relationship a long way.